Paula Kane, BACP

Paula Kane offers calm, steady support for people feeling exhausted, stuck, or overwhelmed by painful relationship patterns. She meets people who doubt themselves, carry past abuse, or struggle to set boundaries. Paula writes the first sessions to be gentle so clients can pace how much they share.

She brings 13 years of experience and is registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP). Paula mixes approaches to suit each person rather than using a single method. Sessions often include talking together, learning about how past experiences shape current reactions, and practical skills to manage strong emotions.

Paula pays attention to how trauma can affect the body as well as the mind. She uses simple mind-body techniques to help calm the nervous system and reduce anxiety. Psychoeducation is part of the work so people can recognise patterns like people-pleasing, overthinking, or shutting down.

Therapy with her aims to strengthen boundaries and self-worth. She supports people to practise saying no, to rebuild confidence, and to make relationship choices that feel safer. Progress is paced around the client's needs.

Sessions are described as collaborative and validating. Paula helps clients make sense of their story, explore attachment patterns, and learn tools for emotional regulation. The overall goal is to help people reconnect with their own sense of safety and identity.

Approaches that guide online therapy

Paula draws on attachment-based ideas to help people understand how early relationships shape current patterns. This work looks at how trust, closeness and fear of abandonment can affect your reactions in relationships and supports safer ways of relating.

She also uses client-centred listening that puts the person in charge of pace and focus. That style offers empathy and respect so people feel heard while they make sense of difficult experiences.

Cognitive behavioural ideas are used to spot unhelpful thinking and try small practical changes. This can help with anxiety, low mood and repetitive thought patterns by giving straightforward tools to practise between sessions.

Finding the right approach is part of the work. Paula will talk with each person about goals, preferences and what feels manageable, and together they decide which methods to try. That collaborative process means therapy can change as needs shift.

If you are considering online therapy, check which session formats the therapist currently offers before booking. Many people choose online sessions because they fit into busy days, remove travel time, and make it easier to schedule brief check-ins or regular weekly meetings. Online work can still include practical exercises, breathing and grounding techniques, and guided reflection adapted to a remote setting.